 To like someone is to enjoy a person just because …. And that could BE the CAUSE of many things.
When we think someone likes us, we usually like them too. It sounds so simple but it’s easier to trust and warm up to them and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s the same for us. We like people that like us. So why not practice letting others know that we like them, especially if we genuinely do? There’s nothing wrong with saying, “You know, I really like you!” That one statement may change everything. Let us like to like those we like today.  When we “try too hard” it may be an indication that we need to do something different. It creates resistance and we feel a force field of energy that drains us where we are less effective. We aren’t fooling anyone either because others can sense it.
With accomplishment comes schedules, deadlines, higher expectations, more demands… but it comes with more stress. What comes naturally is usually the right thing to do. Things that are easy brings effortlessness which creates less stress and greater success. Let us be effortless in all we do by working in our natural flow today.  The act of giving is actionable and ongoing, not just a one time or occasional act.
A truly giving person develops the act of giving by habit. Giving is their nature and they do it without keeping a tally or even thinking about it. The purest form of giving is not expecting anything in return and not focusing on the result of our giving. When we stop giving, we just exist without a deeper level of meaning in our lives. It is when we give that we are able to receive more than we already have. Let us give naturally with the only intention to make a difference today.  If we don’t love ourselves, why would anyone else believe we are worth loving? Why would we say to ourselves anything that we wouldn’t say to a friend? Or, why would we treat others better than we treat ourselves?
We must give “me” a reason to love “me.” It’s a practice. It’s not selfish. When we love ourselves, we don’t need to compare ourselves to anyone else or look to others for validation. There’s no need to seek approval because we are completely secure with ourselves. Let us give us a reason to fall in love with ourselves today.  What if started our day and didn’t have any challenges to overcome?
There would be nothing to work on or creative solutions to propose. There would be nothing to learn or a need to think at a deeper level. Challenges bring meaning to life. Maybe we’ve been given our challenges because we are the only ones that have the capacity to find a resolution. The question we should be asking is, are we inspired by the challenge and is the challenge worth our time. Let us be thankful for the worthwhile challenges we are fortunate enough to receive today.  Life isn’t a test. Testing anything is a waste because everything is relative to what we are testing against. There isn’t any correlation between test scores and real-world success.
How many times have we heard top 10% students working for average or below average students? There aren’t any multiple-choice or true-false answers to choose from in real life. What if the true test for success is to inspire and leave each person we come in contact with better than they were before? Let us test ourselves by how many people we lift up and let everything else fall into place today.  Successful people despise themselves when they feel lazy.
It’s when we are slow to do something or slow at not doing anything at all. It’s when we evade growing or making changes in our lives because they are difficult. It’s to allow ourselves to get into the habit of resting before we even start or get tired. Some might say they aren’t lazy; they just prefer leisure or enjoy doing nothing. There’s a time and a place to wind down, relax and be still. But we can’t stay there. Let us be vivacious and hard-working today.  Most people aren’t born with radiating confidence. This is the type of confidence where everyone in the room notices when you walk in. They become quiet and listen when you speak.
What are the small things they do? They stand up straight with their shoulders back and smile. They raise their head, make eye contact, speak with enthusiasm and use good voice tone. We can all do that! Hunched shoulders, a look of worry and speaking with a whisper projects inferiority. This leads to a sinking feeling and squelches our influence. Take a deep breath and command confidence today.  Sometimes it’s easier to just follow someone else. It takes energy, passion, enthusiasm, motivation – because that’s what leaders do – they are inspired and can inspire others to make things happen.
Everyone else is counting on us to lead the way. We can respond, we have an enlarged vision, we think in terms of new paradigms. We know we are highly valuable. We have greater influence and can act better than anyone else – and so can everyone else. We all can because we all add value. Let us not wait for things to happen by following someone else. Let’s make things happen by taking the lead today.  Think about a time where you have experienced an emergence of smashing success. It’s a time when you suddenly realize, “this may be my breakout moment.”
These moments are scarce. There may only be a few moments like these that happen in a lifetime. The question is, what do we do in that moment? Be grateful, show our enthusiasm, give it all we got knowing how special it is, recognize the opportunity and build momentum for moving forward? Or do we sluff it off, waste it, downplay it, lose our confidence? Let us harness the power and maximize any breakout moment that comes our way today. |
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