 One of the greatest skills to master is to set our expectations high then detach from the outcome as quickly as possible.
The shorter the time is between the two, the better. If the outcome meets or exceeds our expectations, we are successful. Be grateful. Celebrate. Move on. If we fall short of our expectations, there’s room for growth. Be grateful. No need to dwell on it. Move on. The outcome doesn’t change the highest level of expectations we set for ourselves. Let us expect everything and be ready for anything great today.  What is that one little thing that causes us to believe in ourselves? Maybe that’s the simple secret to success.
What if we just do that thing, then look for the next thing. Then those things combined puts us on a continuous cycle of success. Chances are those things aren’t talent, degrees, money or things. It’s probably a person that makes us feel better about ourselves. Maybe it’s something that makes us feel more energized. Maybe it’s helping another person be successful. Whatever it is, we can do that thing that inspires self-belief. Let us believe in ourselves first today.  When we think of the most intelligent people, we often think about how smart they are. It’s not something we can be however. It’s more of an act of understanding and a way of being.
Notice what they do most: they make everyone around them feel intelligent. They build others up through thoughtful words and actions. No one ever makes themselves more intelligent by showing others how small they are. While building up others, they build themselves up even more. Let us build others up or not say or do anything at all today.  If we want more we must give more. And when we give more without conditions, we receive even more. That’s true generosity!
We don’t get rich without enriching others first! What if we practiced one simple rule and that is to give everyone more – more value, more than what they expected, more than they believed possible. No matter what happens, when we adopt a mindset to give more back, we probably will always make the right choice. Let us give more than expected without any conditions today.  What is the one thing that could happen today that would set it over the top?
If we can answer that one question, we can set our expectations towards it. If we keep it on our mind throughout the day, we start questioning everything we do. We align our choices and actions to it, then we have the best chance of experiencing it. All these things combined make the best thing happen. Let our best possible outcome be our most likely outcome today.  When we need approval from others, we make others our judge. When we seek validation from others, we let others determine our value. When we need recognition to be motivated, we give others power over our success. When we live for others acceptance, we die just a little bit every time we are rejected.
Let us purposely validate ourselves and our own self-worth today.  Real power is fueled by moral authority. It is the ability to lead and influence others not by title or status but through our actions and the way we authentically live.
This type of authority can’t be bought because it’s the energy around us. This energy inspires others to want to be better by focusing on the right things for the right reasons. It is the staying power that lasts a lifetime since it is grounded in universal principles like honesty, empathy, sacrifice and hard work. Let us prove our moral authority in our effortless actions and influence today.  When life on the outside seems to be spinning out of control it is usually because we are spinning out of control on the inside. There’s no place to hide on the inside.
This turmoil is merely an outward expression of frustration. The more value we place on the things out of our control, the less control we have. When we control the things we can control, we are able to find balance and our lives align with stability. It is easier to stay grounded rather than getting devoured in the chaos. Let us stay centered in our inside world so we can deal with the outside world better today.  Creating a negative response in a volatile situation is like adding fuel to a fire. If we keep feeding the situation fuel, the fire gets bigger. Worse, it may spiral out of control.
To squelch the fire, when we stop feeding it fuel, the fire dies out. Volatility requires energy. If we resist responding, the momentum dwindles. We then control the flame. When we control the way we respond, and that may be silence, we control the power in a heated exchange. Let us choose when, how to, or if we should respond, with elegance and confidence today.  Great success requires us to be distinctive, best or first. Being appealing because of an unusual characteristic is intriguing (distinctive).
Serving with the highest degree of excellence is hard to find (best). Being first is where the risk is no matter what the situation is. It’s risky to be the first one to step up and lead, to be the first one to speak up, to be the first one to call out inequality, to be the first one to put our heart and soul into a new idea, to be the first one to put our credibility on the line…. Let us be the first-rate version of success for ourselves today. |
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