Without even realizing it we show others how we want to be treated by what we will tolerate. We even encourage it because we are accepting. This even goes for how we treat ourselves.
Whatever we put up with is what we get. It’s a sign of what we expect for ourselves. Why not define the highest version of ourselves and consciously shift our standards to that level then tolerate nothing less? We must own our worth. Let us stand for and accept only the best today. Time anxiety is being anxious about wanting more time, feeling like we are wasting our time, feeling like we don’t have control over our time and feeling like we are running out of time.
Our day gets filled with interruptions, unplanned activities, endless chores….. We are left feeling overwhelmed because we know it’s time we’ll never get back. Once in that state of mind, even the simplest of tasks are overwhelming. All we can control is our response to how we use our time. Let us respond by knowing what is important in our lives then dwell in the present moment today. Sometimes we lessen our influence by using low impact words. Without thinking about it or by habit, some words “just” sneak in.
For example a word like “just” comes across as being apologetic. I “just” want to status with you to find out….. sounds like, “I’m sorry for taking up your time or bothering you.” Think about removing these types of words. We come across as being more assertive. “I want to status with you to find out …. “ sounds direct and confident. Let us use words that set us apart so we can be more impactful in our communications today. Success isn’t a competition. It’s a differentiator. It’s not doing better than the rest. It’s first knowing what to do THEN do it different and go beyond what everyone else does.
If we can find someone that does something better and different, that’s success for us! All we must do is ask, what can we do different? That’s how we rise above any competition. Let us be successful at differentiating ourselves and rise above any competition without competing today. Our atmosphere reflects who we are. Why wouldn’t we design it to remind us of what we are aspiring to be?
If we intentionally design our atmosphere to trigger things that remind of us of our vision and most important goals, it helps push us forward. It may be things like art, images, motivational quotes – anything that sparks a behavioral or attitude change. If we don’t deliberately create it, we are left to chance whatever comes into our space. Let us use our purposeful capacity to design our best atmosphere today. We think of the statement, “get lost” as a rude way to tell someone to go away.
But when we say it to ourselves, it’s a blessing. When we find something that holds our interest so deeply that we forget about time and space, and we can focus our attention on it no matter what is going on around us – we’re lost. And that’s an amazing thing. That’s where our passion is. That’s what brings out our genius. That’s what leaves us feeling fulfilled. That’s our perfect zone. It’s our secret ingredient to successful living. Let us find things that we can “get lost” in today. No one likes a bragger, and no one feels good about being one. At the same time if we don’t toot our own horn occasionally, who will?
It’s a delicate balance between being boastful, braggish and conceited to being humble, unpretentious and proud. Maybe what we need is a “wing(wo)man” – someone that brags about us for us. Or maybe we can toot someone else’s horn for them and be their “wing(wo)man.” It’s the best way to elevate another to a higher level. Let us tread easy about bragging but be proud of the space we and others take up today. What kind of a day would it be if we didn’t have a strong desire to achieve something great?
A simple question to ask ourselves is what do we aspire to be and do today? That sets the direction of the day because aspiration fuels our energy. That’s what makes us come alive. When we raise our level of aspiration combined with our level of expectation, achievement is magnified. The side benefit is it raises other’s energy levels when we know what our aspirations are. Let us work on today’s aspirations for tomorrow’s achievements. We hear everything happens for a reason, but we can add to it and say, sometimes the reason is that we don’t choose wisely, or we make bad decisions, or it’s our fault for choosing the wrong reason.
If we know we made the best decision possible and we accept ownership for our choices, we can trust that eventually all the pieces will fall into place. It would be nice to know what that reason is, but we don’t have a crystal ball. What is meant for us will be right for us. Let us be at peace, live in the moment and be patient today. |
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