 Being selfish in a negative way is to be excessively or exclusively concerned about ourselves without regard for others, especially those we care about most. Being selfish in a positive way is having confidence to arise from concern about our own well-being.
We shouldn’t feel guilty for being selfish if we are improving ourselves or making ourselves happy. Sometimes to be successful, we must be selfish or else we will never achieve anything we desire. The trick is to balance selfishness and selflessness carefully. Let us give back by being more selfless and less selfish after we attain our goals today.  Think about it. This moment used to be the future. That future, now the past, is here in the immediate now.
The brain races and intently fills the space in between the present moment and the unknown future. This blank space, if not intently directed, is what causes us the most angst because we don’t know what is going to happen next. Being intentionally directed isn’t controlling the unknown and unpredictable things going on in our lives. It is being more aware of this blank space and controlling only what we can. Let us control our blank space in between every thought today.  Every obstacle that comes our way is a chance for us to become more aware of our power within.
Let us decide to act, not react, when any obstacle stands in our way today.  Think about some of the most impressive and impactful people we know. What is the one thing that sets them apart?
When others hear us complain about how tough we have it or how hard we struggle to get what we have, it lessens the impressive factor. Let us “be like a duck – calm on the surface but always paddling like the dickens underneath” today.  Sometimes we take many paths before we find the right one.
Sometimes it feels like we are magically led to a path. Sometimes our path finds us. Sometimes we cross people in our path that point us in a new direction. Sometimes our paths cross with others for a reason. Sometimes a unique person is placed in our path for just a moment of time, but they leave a lasting footprint. Sometimes we travel back down a path but it’s never the same. Let us follow our light and know that’s the right path for us today.  Even though we aren’t paranoid, it’s common to let our mind wander, think the worst, take things out of context, then be bothered by it. This creates turmoil and burns up energy. When that happens, it’s refreshing to stop and just stick to the facts.
Why tell ourselves the wrong story? Why worry about what we think happened or what we think someone meant by what they said? We can’t read anyone’s mind and if it’s not true for us, why do we care? Let us separate the facts and stick to what we know is true for us today.  The key to aging gracefully is when we understand that it is not our chronicle age that matters, it’s our psychological age that counts most. How we feel, act, behave and stay fit is what feeds our inner fire.
When do we stop being considered young? It’s up to us to decide. Our inner age is ageless. We can be any age that we want to be. “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.” Let us never let our chronicle age extinguish the fire of our innermost being today.  Why are we worth more? Because we “outworth” more.
It’s not about “outworking” it’s about succeeding in our worth… being totally educated and prepared, being sharp enough to make the right decision the first time, being insanely efficient, doing what others have already done but much better and faster, minimizing unproductive behavior, letting busy work go and most of all, feeling the energy of gratefulness in knowing what our value is. Let us breathe in the power of knowing how rare we are and exhale in the power of sharing out our worth with others today.  Everyone we interact with is a reflection of ourselves. When we admire qualities in others it’s because we admire those attributes about ourselves. When we scrutinize others for their shortcomings, we may be magnifying our faults without even realizing it.
Our life mirrors who we are. Other’s lives mirror who they are. Why look at our lives through someone else’s mirror? Let us trade our binoculars in for a mirror and see ourselves for what we are today.  How can we be a lucky charm? The only luck we get is the luck we create. And to be charming is to exude a compelling attractiveness that has nothing to do with physicality, and we can’t go buy it.
harm is that little something we can’t explain, an appealing quality, an element of je ne sais quoi. We can’t fake it. We either have it or we don’t. Usually, charming people do this one thing: authentically make others feel appreciated and valued so they feel better about themselves. Let us intentionally work hard to create our lucky charms today. |
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