 Where is the disconnect: we know what to do but sometimes we don’t do it?
What keeps us from doing what we know we should or should not do? Maybe we get mixed up in doing more doing than we do attaining (getting it done). Attaining is about achieving an outcome. Doing is working towards the outcome but not reaching the end. It’s easier to control the doing but attaining requires focus on the doing – the day to day action, strategy, habits, choices. Let us connect the doing with attainment today.  Focusing on ourselves doesn’t mean we don’t love the most important people in our lives. It means we are astute enough to know we can’t give those we love the most the support they need if we aren’t doing the best for ourselves first.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling guilty. Let the guilt go because for long-term success, we must be at the top of our priority list. Of course, there is a balance and it may come down to eliminating something or someone else that’s not a high priority. Let us FLY (First Love Yourself) today.  Highly productive people are exceptionally careful about what they think about and how they spend their time. Why would we spend a moment of time on things that emotionally drain us?
Or why would we waste a minute of time thinking about people we don’t like or care about? People that get things done are self-aware. Their energy is spent reflecting on their personal behaviors, habits and interactions – no one else’s. Their focus is how they can actively improve. Let us not waste energy on anyone we wouldn’t want to switch places with or be today.  We often think the harder we work the more successful we will be. If we are working too hard and not achieving our goals, what we are doing may be counterproductive.
If we focus on what we can do that’s effortless or what makes us “come alive,” we perform at our best. A Taoist philosophy, We Wei, refers to effortless action – unconflicting personal harmony. That’s when we are working and accomplishing great things, and we don’t even realize it. It feels like we aren’t doing anything at all. Let us accept our natural flow of We Wei and naturally be our best today.  We can’t buy time so all we can do is manage it. Usually our stress comes from not having enough time or dealing with unexpected things that take up our time.
Why not plan for it like we do everything else? If we take the 10% rule, each week has 168 hours: 10% of that is 16.8 hours. If we exclude 8 hours for sleeping that leaves us 113 hours: 10% of that is 11.3 hours. What if we say 11 hours is free time with nothing scheduled, we could stop being weighed down and under pressure? Let us be leaders of our time so we can feel lighthearted today.  Chances are the road to our success is a long one. Sure, sometimes we are in the right place at the right time and we make a huge leap forward – or we get lucky.
But for the most part, it takes patience to reap our rewards. Our capacity to be patient is our level of acceptance to tolerate delay without getting impatient or giving up. Often things happen in a different order than the time span we have in mind. Those that are mentally tough learn to develop patience. Let us think long term and exercise calm patience today. 
Let us be true love and bring all the love that we have today.  What we do when no one is looking is who we really are.
It’s easy to put on an act and do the right thing when others are watching. But the consequence is chaos on the inside which in turn causes stress and dis”ease.” No matter how big or small, these are the things that define us. No one else may know but we know. When we are aligned internally, we are united externally and life gets easier. Everything falls into place easier and without as much energy. Let us make it our aim to be fully aligned in everything we do today.  To allure another is to hold their attention – maybe just for a second or for enough time to get our point across.
It’s a distinctive level of intrigue that helps us be more influential. It’s a way of being charismatic and charming with a higher degree of confidence. There’s a fine line between pretending to be someone that we aren’t and fully expressing who we authentically are and who we are striving to become. Let us allure those around us in a genuine way with the genuine intention of making positive change today.  More is greater. More is “in addition.” If others see us less, we are probably doing more. When we are open to doing more, we receive more.
If we are willing to do more than expected, we’ll be rewarded to do more than we do, because the more we do, the more we can do. The more we share, the more we have. Then at some magical point, we do more with less work and we are just that, more. Let us keep learning and yearning to be more and give more today. |
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